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when the film is playing and the screen is lit.

The telly is flickering, the room is dimmed. A film is on that you both wanted to watch together. But after a few minutes, a hand slips into a pocket, pulls out a mobile, and a thumb swipes through the feed. Your partner, sitting next to you, is doing exactly the same. The picture on the telly carries on, but you’re both staring at your screens.

double consumption

This behaviour has become a quiet norm. We can no longer bear to give our undivided attention to a single thing. Even in moments of togetherness and relaxation, our brains need to be stimulated simultaneously – a film on one screen, social media on another, and a quick glance at the news in between.

The result is a paradox: we spend time together, yet mentally we are in completely different places. That subtle connection with the person opposite breaks down because our attention is fragmented into a thousand tiny pixels. What remains is a leaden exhaustion, even though we were „just sitting on the sofa“ and wanted to watch a film.

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An evening on the sofa can once again become what it is meant to be: a safe space for togetherness and tranquillity. This doesn’t require any grand rules, just the courage to be fully present.

Imagine the phone is lying in the hall or in a drawer. The room belongs solely to the light from the screen and the story being told. When thoughts arise, let them be there for a moment, rather than reaching for the phone straight away.

Three steps for an evening together

You don’t need to impose strict bans to restore a sense of togetherness. Small changes are enough:

The telephone stays in another room: Put the devices out of reach whilst the film is playing and you’re sitting together.

One thing at a time: Allow yourself to watch the film or listen to the music in its entirety, without the urge to seek a distraction at the same time.

The deliberate change: If you need to use the device, do so deliberately and outside the shared space, rather than sitting next to it without realising it.

a quiet evening

True closeness does not arise from the physical presence of bodies, but from undivided attention to one another and to the moment.

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What is „sensreset“?

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shared blindness.